“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”- Laurell K. Hamilton. Depression is a predicament that at one point or another, most people have to face. It is a situation where the world seems like a dull & dark place, where nothing can change your opinion about life, and things can hardly get better. To put it simply, it’s not a pleasant position to be in.
Enduring depression can be difficult but imagine having a child who’s going through depression at the same time as you are! The complication that arises if one were to be in such a situation is inconceivable. Yet some might be in that very quandary. What do you do when your back is against the wall and you have nowhere to run? Do you weep and mourn and continue to reside in the everlasting darkness of your mind or do you make a conscious effort to improve you and your child’s life?
It all starts with taking care of yourself, as Michele Obama once rightfully said – “To be a good parent you need to take care of yourself so that you can have the physical and emotional energy to take care of your family”. The first step to do this is to talk to a psychiatrist and share your life story with him/her, after he/she gives you professional advice, use them at once and practice them religiously. Secondly, there are certain things that you can do to make yourself feel better. For instance, perform activities that give you joy; maybe watching a comedy movie with your child or cooking or painting, anything that makes you feel alive is worth doing over and over. And avoid activities and people that are toxic to you in your life. Depression doesn’t occur overnight so it isn’t wise to assume that the healing process has to start right away, but time will undoubtedly heal the wounds.
After getting your life back in shape, it is advisable to take your child to the school counselor
, since the counselor is well poised to monitor the activities of your child in school. Make sure that your child has a reasonable amount of social interaction, and the only way to do that is to be socially active yourself. Participating in social work-related activities is a great way to start, as it gives you and your child a platform to interact with positive-minded people. As your child observes a world filled with positive individuals, the child will start to see the world in a more positive light as Dodie Smith once said “Noble deeds and hot baths are the best cures for depression.”
Slowly but surely the depression starts to fade and you see light at the end of the tunnel; the darkness of the world around you faints; you start observing life in a positive light and your dull life starts to shine bright like a star in the night sky.